|  You
are not alone . . .
Pregnant Women
Stories from California, United States |
Lady
A's Story: I am in a total and complete
crisis moment in my life and really NEED this information with
every breath I take. I never thought I would get myself in such
a irresponsible mess but here I am. I have two sons ages 9 &
7 years old and I am positive I cannot have this child, at least
NOT at this moment in my life. Pleeaasssee I need your help!!!!!!! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, beating from father
or other family member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$? |
| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
B's Story: I have 2 children, one who
has just turned 1. I am not ready for
anymore children. My husband believes god will give us all he
wants, but I cant handle another one. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, beating from husband |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$650 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
C's Story: I hope you can help me. I don\'t
want another baby with him. If he knew
I was doing this he would live me with nothing |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, beating from husband |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men, Birth Control Pill |
|
Lady
D's Story: i recently just had a baby
and our family is struggling to make ends
meet. my husband is strongly against me having an abortion. Even
if he supported my decision we couldnt afford it at this time.
The
information you have would be very helpful to me at this time.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
E's Story: I\'m scared I might be pregnant
because my period isn\'t coming when it\'s supposed to. This is
the first time I\'ve ever had sex without using a condom.
I\'m completely in love with the person I\'m with but
we\'re too young for children and we tried to be responsible but
if I am pregnant anyway we can\'t go through with it. I\'m scared.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
school expulsion, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$1000+ |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Hormonal Vaginal Contraceptive Ring
(NuvaRing) |
|
Lady
F's Story: I have a very controlling husband.
If he finds that I am pregnate again
he will kill me and this child. I can\'t take that risk. I have
2 children already and he is not a good father he beats me and
curses me and
says that I am ruiened for havingin children. I am fat and ugly
and he is discusted my the sight of me...\"Your A whore\"
he calls me. Please help. I have mothered to children and thier
lives are hell for keeping them. I can\'t bring another life into
this world and know he/she would be happy and safe. I have to
terminate this pregnacy before he finds
out... please help my baby. I don\'t want to do this. I have to
for myself and my childrens sake.\\ Thank
you |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, beating from husband,
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
|
Lady
G's Story: i honestly didn\'t think i
could get pregnant. i am just shy of 41
years old and this is my first pregnancy. I had non-consensual
sex with someone I care for. unfortunately he doesn\'t feel the
same for me. it has been over 4 years and i need to move on i
will never get the love i deserve from him. i tell him this and
he tells me to shut up it\'s pms
or wait a week or why does it have to be all or nothing. it is
maddening! blah blah blah |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$600.00 |
| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
other... |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
H's Story: i am currenly preganant and
dont have enough money for an abortion...i dont want to go thru
with the preganay becasue my partner did it on
purpose after i told him i didnt want children and my parents
would kick me out. next month i would have missed my thrid period
and my parents are asking questions and tellin me if i am pregnant
they will kick me out and will not talk to me. pleASE HELP ME
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$425 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV) |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
I's Story: Hi my name is Sharon. I really
didn\'t know what to do. I have two
kids of my own and live in California. My husband and I weren\'t
excepting another child. But now that I am pregnant he is happy
and I am very depress. We can\'t afford another child and he is
against abortion and would probably leave. So if you please help
me I would be very greatful. again thanks |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$570.00 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Native American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol or drugs due
to my own actions. And I had sex without being fully aware of the
situation |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
J's Story: I have 3 children. I just started
a new job to help with the bills. It\'s so expensive here. The
last thing I want is another child. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$450.00 |
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
Japanese |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
K's Story:I want to do something that
I won\'t feel violated from. I want to do
this in the privacy of my own home. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Central Asian |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
L's Story: i just had a baby about two
years ago and it is hard for me now. i want
to go off to college and finish my college degree. the college
in my current town doesnt really help the needs i have to major
in my desired area. i want to move out of this town to make i
better life for my new family but i know that if i had this baby,
there would be no chance of me excelling in my life any time soon.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$1,000.00 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Patch (Ortho Evra) |
|
Lady
M's Story: i was raped by my drunk father
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from husband, beating from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped by a family member |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
N's Story: I'm so very scared right now.
I know I am not capable of caring for a
child. My boyfriend and I are struggling with two jobs apiece
just to pay rent and bills. The choice to get an abortion medically
is just too
expensive and the price of asking my family for help.. I cant
afford that either. Please, I need information on what to do and
how to do it
safely. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$900 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
O's Story: I have a now 10month old child.
I am finding myself extremely hard to
pay my basic needs, and hers. I do live with her dad, but together
we are barely making ends meat. I do want more children, but I
just can't afford another one right now. My daughter was not planned,
and now in hindesview, I would've like to have waited longer before
becoming a mother. I love being a mom, though, and I love her
immensly, but I would've
like to have waited. And now, I am torn because I don;t want to
endure another painful abortion, and can not afford to take the
time off work, or pay for childcare on a day that I am not working.
Please help. I am now 5 days late. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
P's Story: I am a mother of a nearly three
year old boy. I've been going through a divorce in California.
I got some drinks with my roommate to celebrate
my divorce. I had sex with him, something I normally would not
have done. We had used a condom, it didn't work. I had a period
after that
and thought I was ok. I began to worry when I had been feeling
oddly like I did with my first pregnancy. During this time I drank
more than
normal. I found out I was pregnant at about 6 weeks. I talked
to medical and found that the Navy does not allow abortions. I
went online and found that Black Cohosh and Dong Quai can stimulate
an herbal miscarriage. I
also tried Vitamin C. I'm into the 3rd week of herbal use and
have had mild discharges in shades of yellow, orange and red brown,
but nothing that has lasted. I am really worried. I need all the
information I can. If it isn't already too late. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV), I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being fully
aware
of the situation., I used birth control but it did not work, |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
Q's Story: i am 27 yrs old and have been
with the same man since i was 19. he is
14 yrs older than I. I have never been pregnant never missed my
period not even once. I am so regular I and my fiance know when
it is supposed to be.. Recently for reasons unknown I strayed
and now my worst
nightmare is a reality. I have no job, money and abortion is the
last thing i ever EVER wanted to do. The man or I should say boy
whom I am
pregnant from is in no way shape or form able to handle the situation
and the man I love and have been with for most of my adult life
would flip out and leave me. Then I would be homeless as well
as pregnant. PLEASE help
me. I have nowhere to turn...I don't want to have to find an unhealth
or dangerous method to miscarry.. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$600 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work, I did not use birth
control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control, We used a condom
for men
|
|
Lady
R's Story: I was told about ten years
ago that I could not have any more children (I have an eight year
old daughter). I don't use birth control in part due to medical
issues and in part due to what I was told. Now I find myself pregnant.
I am in a relationship but lead an alternative lifestyle which
includes multiple partners. I do not know who the father is. To
further complicate matters, one of my partners is black. A mixed
baby would cause no end of scandal, not only with my family but
wiath my friends as well since our lifestyle is not general knowledge.
Aside from all that I am not in a position financially to have
a child, it
being difficult supporting myself. And I really do not have tohe
$340 to $360 it would cost to do this clinically. I would really
appreciate
it if you could give me access to your articles as I am desperate
and feel I have no where to turn. Thank you for your time. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$360.00 |
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
S's Story: well right now mmmm iam 16
and i went to a party i was having sex with one guy but he was
wearing a condom im still a virgin cuz ididnt go in and i went
to this room and some strange guy started doing stuff to me he
wanted sex he didnt have a condom but i dont know if he cum on
me cuz he told me i was still a virgin he was trying to pop it
but i didnt let him or anything this happend on sunday today is
monday |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
Under 16 years old |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation., I was raped by a stranger |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control
|
|
Lady
T's Story: I was married for 4 years.
We have two kids a 4 year old little boy and 7 month little girl.
I have just recently found out that my husband cheated on me while
I was pregnant with our daughter. He decided to leave me and my
children. He is not giving me any money or help and I'm trying
to do it all on my own. I just found out 3 days ago that I was
pregnant and I just dont think that I can handle three children
on my own. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
U's Story: Im in the military. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Patch (Ortho Evra) |
|
Lady
V's Story: I am 38 years old and was shocked
when I found out I was pregnant as I thought I was too old, and
I have never been pregnant before. I am going through an extremely
difficult period in my life and having this baby is really NOT
an option that I could feel about. I am at a crossroads and I
must leave the father of this unborn baby if I am going to be
healthy and happy... I am broke and desparate--please tell me
how to
induce a miscarriage at home ASAP!!! Thank you for listening...Sincerely,
Tracy |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$695.oo |
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
|
|
Lady
W's Story: I have a one year old son who
i love very much i am a single mom and a full time student i know
i was not cautous but i do know that i am not in the right place
to have another child my boyfriend desperately wants this baby
but i am sure we can try again |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$900 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Rhythm Method |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
|
| |
|
