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Pregnant Women
Stories from Florida, United States |
Lady
A's Story: my boyfriend told me that he
was wearing a condom..he didnt confess accidental ejaculation
and that fact that he wasnt wearing the condom i gave him until
about an hour afterwards. I was very upset but i thought i'd be
ok with plan b, unfortunately i took the second pill late. i had
been asleep, and didnt awake in time for the second dosage..i
took it later, approx 3 hrs beyond the 12 hour period between
doses, unsuccessfully. He said that he would leave me if i had
the baby. Im about 2 weeks pregnant and im completely broke. I
had to pay my rent and tuition with the last of my savings.. im
out of work and out of options..and basically dealing with it
all alone. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
no
penalties-humilialtion, guilt, and lack of
finances |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
|
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work, |
|
Lady
B's Story: My husband just walked out
on me and he said he wasn't coming back, so far he's been true
to his word. He's been supporting me while I've been going to
school full time. We've been struggling financially but now he's
left me with no money at all and before he left I told him that
I suspected I was pregnant and he told me he didn't want another
baby now, because frankly we can't afford another child. Now I
feel like I can barely take care of myself and my daughter, my
mother is helping but there's no way I could support another child,
and seeing how I don't have any type of income now I don't seem
to have many options at all. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth
control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Spermicides |
|
Lady
C's Story: i have a 2 year old daughter,
and i will lose her to my paremts or her father if i have the
baby or have a surgical abortion. i was with someone and became
pregnant, he will not help me to get rid of the unwanted pregnancy.
my parents disowned me when i told them 4 days ago that i was
pregnant, and i have no job, no money, and right now no place
to live. i cannot have this baby, unfortunately, and cannot afford
a surgical abortion. please help me to miscarry..i may have a
chance to have my family and daughter back. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating
from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family,Other Family
Penalties: i will lose my 2 year old daughter |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men |
|
Lady
D's Story: I have been with the man I
love for two years. Recently we went to visit my parents and we
expressed our love for each other and told them we
would like to get married and have a family. They told us if we
did that we would be disowned, and if I was to become pregnant
before marriage, there would be worse consequences.... |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating
from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control
Pill |
|
Lady
E's Story: My name is S. I'm a 21 year
old mother of 1 who just went through one of the hardest times
of my life. My partner's father passed away last month and we
both lost our jobs, and eventually our home.
We have moved in with my father for the time being and are working
our way back to having both feet on the ground, as they say. I
am quite careful with tracking my menstrual cycles as well as
my ovulation, but it appears that this time it didn't work out
as well as usual. Humans are fallible. I just know in my heart
that this isn't the right time for another child, and I have accepted
that and am moving forward in the only way I know how.
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not
use birth control |
|
Lady
F's Story: i did have sex knowing i was
doing it, but i was under the influence of alcohol. so i wasnt
aware of evrything going on like "did we put the condom on
right" or "did it break". i think what i did was
quite stupid...well now i say that. and i am no condition to have
or suport a child. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic /
Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol or drugs
due to
my own actions. And I had sex without being fully aware of the
situation |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not
use birth control |
|
Lady
G's Story: I
am 16 years old. I am number 9 out of 310 in my class ranking,
with a 4.166 GPA on a 4.0 scale. My boyfriend and I are incredibly
in love, but we made the most unwise decision. Apparently he said
that he pulled out, but I am over a week late on my period. I
cry every night regretting what I have done. I would hate to lose
the love of my life because we made a choice that we would never
do again. Since I have over 5 hours homework, so I don't have
a job. I am going to take a test, but I have to do it in secret
and with only $10. In order to have an abortion, I would need
to get a parental notification. Having either of my parents, or
his parents, would result in him not seeing me. I am willing to
make a responsible choice, my studies are
the most important part of my potential. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
Social
Disruptions, financial crisis |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
Under 16 years
old |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Rhythm
Method |
|
Lady
H's Story: Could
you please help me in this horrible situation, I am not allowed
to have a job and my boyfriend whom I live with controls all the
finances, I do not have any money as I am not givin any allowance.
He is a very controlling person and forces me to have intercourse
with him as this is partly how I ended up with this problem he
does not like kids and I do not feel it to be good to have a child
around as I want to find a way out myself. I am begging you to
help me in this desparate situation. Please can you help me? |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, beating from husband, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$650.00 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic /
Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth
control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men |
|
Lady
I's Story:I
was hit over the head and raped in an unfamiliar place. I am a
working mother of 5 and my husband does not have a job at the
moment. I am working to pay all the bills and make ends meat.
I have never done anything like this before but do not have the
mentality nor the money to have this child. If my husband finds
out I am left alone and my mother and father are dead. I have
no where to go if that happens. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, dis-owned by family, Have 5 children and would be forced
to be a single parent |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped
by a stranger, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Depo Provera |
|
Lady
J's Story: I
would love to know how to naturally induce a miscarriage. I am
not able to afford a abortion, and my husband will beat me to
death if he finds out, i was raped by him. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, beating from husband |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500.00 |
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped
by a stranger, I was gang raped by more than one person, I used
birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Patch
(Ortho Evra) |
|
Lady
K's Story: I
am a divorced mother of 3 children; 16, 9, 6. I am presently in
a relationship with someone who also has 2 children; 3, 10 months.
The condom came off. We cannot afford an abortion or to take care
of another child. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned
by
family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men |
|
Lady
L's Story: I'm
almost 25, married, and have two kids. I'm extremely low income,
as my husband cannot work, nor take care of our children, so we
have to rely on his disability for income. We recieve public assistance
as well, but it's barely enough to get by, and a lot of the time,
I go without just so that the rest of my family doesn't have to.
I am on the
birth control pill, camila by name, because I'm breastfeeding.
I knew it had a good chance of failure, but I hadn't had any problems
thus far. Now I have a positive home pregnancy test, and I know
there's no way I can afford another child, and would find it best
to miscarry as naturally as possible. I love my unborn child,
but I cannot give him/her any kind of life that would be worth
it. There just isn't any way right now.
Please help
if you can...my need to read this article is huge. Thank you!
A. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned
by
family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300.00 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control
Pill |
|
Lady
M's Story: I
am unable to afford a clinical abortion, not to mention that my
family being very prudent christians would no longer allow me
in their home. I am married with a 10 month old son that I adore.
We are barely making it financially though. I have had my period
for the entire pregnancy yet began growing the pregnancy stomach
so I took a test and sure enough I'm pregnant. I must be decently
far along to be showing as I am. It is getting hard to hide. My
job requires that I be exposed to radiation on a daily basis,
I also have taken herbs throughout the pregnancy trying to help
what I thought was menstrual problems, all the herbs would be
harmful to e fetus. I cannot bring the child into this world under
the circumstances that I am living. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$1500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared for, I used birth control but it did not
work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men, Birth Control Pill |
|
Lady
N's Story: I
have been raped and pregnant before. My mother had me while she
was on birth control. I take birth control for a serious ovarian
cyst. I'm thinking the stuff doesn't work. I have a tilted uterus
that cannot
withstand pregnancy, it will collapse and I will be forced to
have a hysterectomy (at least, that's what the doctor said). I'm
in school trying to get a PhD, the first person in my family.
I have only consentedly had sex with one person, with which we
use condoms. He left me when he found out I was pregnant, thinking
I cheated on him. I'm terrified of him telling my family, if they
find out, I will get kicked out, and have no way to go to school.
I have no way to pay for this abortion. I was forced to live on
the street when I was a child, and I don't want to
have to do that again. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
school
expulsion, beating from father or other family member, dis-owned
by family;Health risks, no way to go to school, kicked
out of the house |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$over 600 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Inter-Racial
/ Mixed Race |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used
birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control
Pill |
|
Lady
O's Story: well,i'm
15 and i love my boyfriend with all my heart and i decided i was
ready to have sex,and we did it for the first time on the 4th
of november i believe and i just found out last night that the
condom had broken and since the first week after i had sex i have
been feeling like im pregnant and i missed my period. i cant ell
my mom or she will be crushed to no extent. please help me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating
from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
Under 16 years
old |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men |
|
Lady
P's Story: Well
as I was saying before mother of one. I am also a preschool-Kindergarden
teacher for a private school. My boyfriend has two children from
previous relationships. He is in the Marines been to Iraq twice
and is now returnng for a third time. He is in communication...in
a tank. Well we just recieved word that this deployment is 8-12
months instead of 3-6 months. So the timing is way off. I would
love to has this child if it was a year from now and he was home.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
I
am a single mother, Divorced my daughter is a
straight A 4th grader |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$440 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men
|
|
Lady
Q's Story: I
already have 4 children, we cannot afford another child, this
was totally unplanned. I take the pill, but apparently am way
too fertile. My husband will be going for a vasectomy after this.
We are desperatley trying to avoid foreclosure on our home. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$395 |
| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
|
Lady
R's Story: well
i am in a relationship and it is with a great man that does not
believe in abortions...i can not have this baby...and i do not
work or have family of my own to even think about helping me pay
to have one done..i am scared and dont know what else to do but
to end this pain i am in..i have not told the man in my life yet
and i dont want to because if he knows i will not be able to do
this..please help |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350.00 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped
by a stranger |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Surgical Sterilization
(Tubal Ligation or
Vasectomy) |
|
Lady
S's Story: hi
my name is G. and my boy friends named o. we\'re both still in
high school it took my parents about a year to approve him, and
now im pregnet because the condom we used broke, so 5 days later
i took a test and it said pregnet. then i started crying because
i new i was not ready for a baby nor is my boy friend we both
wont to graguate frist and im learnibng medical work so i am going
to need all my time for school if i was stabled and ready i would
keep my baby but im just not and thank you g.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a
condom for men |
|
Lady
T's Story: I
am very unprepared for a child. I cannot afford an abortion right
now, for i am unemployed. I would like to know how safe is your
method and does it really works, I think i am only 4 weeks pregnant.
Please
Help! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$525.00 |
| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
East Indian |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth
control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Patch
(Ortho Evra) |
|
Lady
U's Story: I
trusted him and he put a hole in the condom. He has no kids and
made this decision without my consent. I do not want anymore children
and this point in my life. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400.00 |
| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
U's Story:I
am 24 years old and I have a 2 YO. I had a very vary hard 9 months
with my daughter. The doctor said that one of us probably wouldn\'t
make it and we are both here. I don\'t want to go through something
that tramatic again. We also can barley afford the baby tht we
have now and we are living in a single room home because thats
all we can afford. I just don\'t want to bring a baby into this
world that could be sick or may
not even make it. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by
family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
The Patch (Ortho Evra) |
|
Lady
U's Story:I
have not been sexually active in almst two years until recently.
I thought there might be a possibiliyt that i was pregnant and
took the morning after pill. It did not work. I believe i waited
to many days for it to have proper effectiveness. I do not want
to have a medical abortion and i would love to know what i can
naturally do to terminate this before it goes any further.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400.00 |
| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
V's Story: I WAS LYIN IN THE BED AND MY COUSIN
CAME IN THE ROOM AND LOCK THE DOOR AND FORCED HIS PENIS IN SIDE
ME IM ONLY 15 |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
school expulsion, beating from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family, genital mutilation,
i wont be able to live at home anymore. |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
Under 16 years old |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped by a family member, I did not use birth
control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control,
|
|
Lady
W's Story:i have one child who is two...i
met a man who i thought i loved but i
now believe that i thought i loved him because of the way my last
relationship ended...i got pregnant and i am scared to have the
baby of a man i dont really know. I need help and cant afford
an abortion at a clinic. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$485 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian
(White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual
sex with someone I cared
for, I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not
use birth control,
|
|
Lady
X's Story: My husband and I have three
great kids.When we had our daughter 5 months ago,I was planning
to have my tubes tied,there were complications and I could.So
we decieded to have a vasectomy done,well that wasn\'t avaliable
until June.Between then and now I became pregant.I told my Doctor\'s
office who I have been with for years and they said they couldn\'t
cover me b/c I am high risk and told me that if I was to go through
this,my uterus would rupture and I would bleed internally and
die.Then in the same breath told me they DO NOT belive in abortion.I
truly feel
like I had no one. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
guilt |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$425 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men,
|
|
Lady
Y's Story: Abortions are traumatic, and
extremely expensive. We are a low income family and cannot afford
to have another child. I wanted something natural to take care
of this issue. I got pregnant while on the pill but while taking
antibiotics. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500.00 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
|
Lady
Z's Story: No one really sat me down and
told me any thing about sex! Everything i know now, i have to
go throught it alone to learn! Some people say thats the best
way to learn. Now that i know about life and how it can trun on
you so fast i want to start over this time! I want to come into
the game head frist knowing what am doing. Am still young i dont
want to bring a child into this wrold without me being on track!
Am a step over poor! when the time for a baby, then ill know and
ill be ready! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation., I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|