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Pregnant Women
Stories from Michigan, United States |
Lady
A's Story: my name is denise, i'm 17,
i have alot of dreams, and i also want a
nice future, i love my boyfriend, but we know we cannot affort
having a baby...i think i'm about 2 weeks pregnant, and i want
to have a
miscarriage before it develops into a human being... |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
B's Story: I am a teenage girl with big
dreams of being a special education teach
but choose to have sex two times and now maybe pregant. I am not
ready for a child I don't have the time or attention to raise
a child! so please help me ! I also don't believe in abortion
so this is the best thing for me
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Lady
C's Story: I was admitted into the hospital
yesterday for abnormal bleeding, and
they told me I am 5 weeks pregnant. And my body is trying to miscarriage
but for some reason it won't, its just bleeding.. I need help.
I am extremely sore, and scared. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation. |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
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Lady
D's Story:
I'm very sad to come to the miscarraige or abortion option but
adoption or keeping the baby is not an option for me. My family
is a very strict catholic family I went to a party with one of
my girl friends, i didn't know anyone at this party. So when my
friend went off with a guy i was left by myself.this guy i was
having a conversation with a guy told me he had a 69 cobra in
the garage i was syced. i went out back with him
and him being 200-250 pounds more than i am we grabbed both my
arms with
one of his and stuffed a styrofoam ball in my mouth and even if
i was able to scream no one inside could have hear me the music
was too loud. After he got off me i ran all the way home i couldnt
file a police report because i only knew his first name I knew
how my parents would react and i couldnt tell anybody having this
baby or talking to my parents about an abortion is not an option
And if i have the baby i will be reminded of my rape every day
so please i need your method |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$450 dollars |
| Age |
Under 16 years old |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped by a stranger |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
E's Story: am not sure how much an abortion
will cost, but I don't haev a job. I
did not press charges ageist the guy who did this to me because
I just wnated the whole thing over. An if thought I would never
have to think about him or what happen again. I have called him
to let him know i am with child and he has offered no help, and
has hung up on me. He said that I should have been nicer to me
when I had him. I know what he did
was not my fault but it feels like it, and I can't afford an aboration.
I am not sure what I will do if i am forced to have this baby,
or what
my family will say about a basterd child. I am sure they will
disown me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
Chinese |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was date raped by someone I know |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
F's Story: they said it was a joke but
its not even a little bit funny, now i have
no idea who the father is and i dont know how im going to take
care of this baby or myself and dont even want to think of what
my alcoholic family will do to me or it when they find out. i
would really just like this to all go away, i have no money for
an abortion and i need this information, my life as i know it
depends on it. without this information
i dont know if i can live in this world anymore, and im not sure
if i'd want to. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
forced into prostitution, husband leaves,
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family, death by the hands of a family member |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was duped, drugged, or conned into having sex
with someone who I would not normally have had sex with, I did not
use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
G's Story: I already have 3 children,
one of which will be graduating form high school this year, we
can't afford another child and I'm not mentally nor emotionally
prepared to have one. It seems as if I've been a mother all my
life. We are on the verge of losing our home to foreclosure. I'm
already under a lot of stress and I can't even fathom having another
child at all. I'm still trying to figure out how my son will attend
college. Please advise, a woman in distress.... |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300.00 |
| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
H's Story: This isn't illegal at all is
it? I love my family to death, there all just against it. I am
only 16 years old and have been sick and stressed out. I want
to have a child when I'm married and more prepared. I don't have
any money, I live with my mother. I talked to her about my problems
and she said she won't have a part of me having an abortion; she
thinks it's wrong and I did as well. Until I got put in this situation.
I thought of adoption but I won't do that. I was talking to a
girlfriend and her friend said check the web, because her cousin
did. I didn't ask
anything else which I should of, to make sure it was a fake and
a waste of time. Especially when I have a really problem. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 + |
| Age |
Under 16 years old |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
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Lady
I's Story: I am completely at a loss.
I don't know what to do, where to turn. I
found out I was pregnant durring a hospital stay, which is already
going to put me into significant debt. I have no job, I was kicked
out of school, and I am living with friends. The father of the
baby and I had been dating casually for several months, but when
he found out I was pregnant he left and I haven't seen or heard
from him since. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I'm running out of time.
There is no way I'm going to be able to make $700 in a week, and
if I wait any longer I'm not going to be able to get an abortion.
Please, I don't know where else to turn. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
school expulsion, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
J's Story: I have a 6 yr-old from a previous
relationship. I have been teaching
birth classes independent of the hospital for several years. I
am not in a serious relationship right now. The first child completely
stopped all progress in my life. I am just now starting to think
about applying to college for a nursing career, but cannot follow
through if I have a brand-new baby, a low-paying job, and no husband.
As it is, I will
have to leave my child with her father while I take most of my
classes at a school about 90 miles away, if that's the direction
my life takes.
I work in a grocery store for most of my income. The classes I
teach attract very few students, and the money from that is mostly
reinvested in the class. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV) |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
K's Story:
I am an only child and i been back and forth from my mother to
my
father's home. I was angry with my parents one day so to blow
off the steam iwent to a club with some of my friends. After i
drunk a few drinks i got really hot so i step outside for a second.
little did i know that there was aboy who had be following me
throw the club that saw me walk out alone. He put his hand over
my mouth and throw me in a white van.
Inside the van was three other boys. They all took turns with
my body and than they thrw me in the alley. I just found out a
couple of days ago i was with child and i just need it to go away |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$250 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was gang raped by more than one person
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
L's Story: I only 16 going on 17 in June.
Iam a 4.0 student.I was raped a couple
of weeks ago at a party i attended. Everybody was drinking, smoking,
and having sex. I remember a cute guy kept giving me drinks next
thing i knew he pushed me in the basement were nobody else was.
I kept telling
him to stop. I cried,scream, kicked, and puched him but he just
put his hand over my mouth and kept going. While he was raping
me i must have past out after my attempt to get a away because
i don't remember how it
ended i just remember waking up in that basement with blood all
over me. I never told anybody about the rape not even my best
friend iam to ashamed. My parent passed away years ago so i live
with my aunt and she
can't aford to get me an abortion. Plese help me!! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$250 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation., I was raped by a stranger |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
M's Story: well i am in school and the
reason i am pregant is because after my
friends kept telling me to let loose and get my head out of my
books and enjoy life. I met this guy who stays on my dorm floor
and well i dont
want to go into details but I was forced to have sex. My parents
provide my financial support so o get a regular abortion i would
have to tell
them and they are very strict and the consequences would be severe
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was date raped by someone I know |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
N's Story: going through divorce with
an alcoholic ex husband with which I already have a 2 year old
girl with. He is not there for her, I do not want another child
to not have a father. I also am not working, I was before husband
abandoned us, a stay at home mom, going to college. I am still
going to college & have not had any success finding employment
due to disabilities. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$600 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
O's Story: Please help me! This was truly
a mistake. I honestly got pregnant off
of thr pre-ejaculate. My partner and I did indeed decide to try
but after a short amount of time on the first try, we stopped
and decided to never try again until we could afford birth control.
That first time was the time that I got pregnant. With both of
us having no medical
insurance, things are very hard. I am currently unemployed, he
is working through temporary services that are not very promising.
I am trying to get back into school, pursue my dream of dancing,
and getting a good
job. I am not ready for a child. Please give me information on
how to safely induce a miscarriage. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$425 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV) |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
P's Story: I am a very smart woman with
goals that I wish to achieve eventhough i feel what i doing i
wrong it is right for me , I am not financiallly able to afford
an abortion |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being
fully aware of the situation |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
Q's Story: I\'m in a situation w/a controlling,
verbally abusive man. I don\'t
have a job, and do not have my own credit card. I cannot leave
any \"tracks\" as he misses nothing. I \"may\"
be a couple wks pregnant & need to get away--cannot have a
reason (baby) to stay linked to him. I could
send you cash someday if I had an address. I appreciate and need
your help. Thank you. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family, Very religious
family wouldn't approve even if they knew circumstance |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
R's Story: I have been dating a guy for
about 5 months now, and we do have sex
alot, and one night we did not have any protection but decided
to for the first time without any protection. A few days later
I felt as if I should take a pregnancy test and I did, and it
came back positive, and then I took another and it showed the
same thing. Both me and my boyfriend are very scared and are clueless
as to what to do. I am only 17 going on 18 in less then a month
and he is 18 going on 19 in also less then a month. I came to
your website for help and guidance. Thanks for posting it. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
S's Story: I have a son who just turned
a yr. His dad left when I was pregnant
and I recently lost my job. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV) |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
T's Story: im 17 years old and my fionce
(19) and I had consentual sex with a
condom. The condom broke, and i prayed for my period, which never
came. i took an at home test and it showed that i was pregnant.
i think i am about a month along and im very scared. my Father
already told me he would
beat my fionce into \"a vegtable\" if i ever got pregnant.
and i know he would do just that. We considered having the baby,
but i wouldnt be
able to stay at my house while i was expecting, we are trying
to save up for an apartment, but i cant move out until im 18 and
thats not for
another 7 months.neither of us have a credit card and we both
are just gettting out of highschool and judt have minimum wage
jobs. i dont know what i\'ll do i cant get an abortion without
paretal consent until 18 and by thenit will be too late. please
help me! i dont know why but this site isn\'t working very well
so im sorry if this sends multiple times. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$250 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
U's Story: im 17 years old and my fionce
(19) and I had consentual sex with a
condom. The condom broke, and i prayed for my period, which never
came. i took an at home test and it showed that i was pregnant.
i think i am about a month along and im very scared. my Father
already told me he would
beat my fionce into \"a vegtable\" if i ever got pregnant.
and i know he would do just that. We considered having the baby,
but i wouldnt be
able to stay at my house while i was expecting, we are trying
to save up for an apartment, but i cant move out until im 18 and
thats not for
another 7 months.neither of us have a credit card and we both
are just gettting out of highschool and judt have minimum wage
jobs. i dont know what i\'ll do i cant get an abortion without
paretal consent until 18 and by thenit will be too late. please
help me! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$250 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
V's Story: I went on a friendship date
to a local bar. I was only there for 1 hour and became very ill.
I was brought to my friends house to layt down. next thing I knew
he was on top of me and I couldn\'t stop him. I borrowed money
from a friend to buy the plan B pill. (48.00) I am now 3 days
late, and took a pregnancy test which came up positive. I cannot
have this baby. I can\'t afford to have the baby or terminate
it. Could you please help me? |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$662.00 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Native American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was date raped by someone I know |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
W's Story: I would gladly support your
efforts financially, but do not have a credit card available to
me. I wish there were some way to give you the payment requested.
Perhaps if there were an address I could send a money order, but
I can understand if you would not want to disclose a location.
If there is any way you could support me in not having a child
at this time I would be forever thankful. The thought of having
a medical abortion is frightening. Please help me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$450 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Hispanic / Latino |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Rhythm Method |
|
Lady
X's Story: boyfriend just left for marines
alreasdy have a 4 yr old daughter i struggle on my own to support,
works two jobs, just cannot do this right now. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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