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Pregnant Women
Stories from North Carolina, United States |
Lady
A's Story:im a single mom in the military.
i am currently pregnant with my second child. its hard enough
raising one with no help. i am 4 months. just dont have the extra
money for an abortion. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men, Birth Control Pill |
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Lady
B's Story: i am a single, disabled, severly
depressed and tramatized young woman raising a 4 year old. i am
not able to work due to my disability. i became pregnant on march
5th by an non-consensual act. i cannot afford $600 to have an
abortion, not am i stable enough to raise another child. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$600 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was duped, drugged, or conned into having sex
with someone who I would not normally have had sex with |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
C's Story:i have 2 other daughters that
i cannot ever see again because the dss
took them out of my mom due to false allegations that my step
daughter had said, my husband was accused of beating her when
she came to spend the weekend with us which we had witnesses to
prove it dint happen even
my daughters said that it dint happen but it dint matter, and
i cannot bare to lose another child to the dss i would rather
die than hand them
over another child.i am beyond desparate dont know where to go
or who to turn too |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, beating from husband |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
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Lady
D's Story:Basically, me and my fiance
were using a condom, and he "pulled out", but I still
found myself pregnant. He is supporting not only us, but also
sending money to his disabled grandmother, and is getting himself
compelety debt free(paying off his grandma's medical bills, which
he borrowed money for)so we are in no fiancial way able to have
this child, but would not want to give it up for adoption, but
would not want to have
it, not being able to let it have the life it deserves. We can't
tell my grandparents, because they are totally against abortion
or miscarriage anything, so I am really really in a pickle, and
hope you can offer some help, we need it desperatley bad, and
this wasnt a careless "toying with pregnancy" sex, we
are so careful, but I guess not careful enough. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$450.00 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
|
Lady
E's Story:hi im a a mother of 6 children
alreasy and i really did want another
child but not at this time thats the reason for getting my tbes
tied. my children are from the age ranges of 8 to 1. i dont want
another child
because it is already hard enough trying to raise these 6 that
i have all by my self so i dont want to get an abortion i just
would like to
have a natural miscarriage. i dont believe in abortions thats
why i already had my share of 11 children. i had 1miscarriage
and 2 live sets of twins. both sets died from anurisms in their
head 1 at 3 months the other at 9 months so i really find myself
to be blessed with 6 that i have now that a so far functioning
in a normal manner so if you could be so heart felt to help me
i would greatly appreciate it |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband leaves, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$1700 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Surgical Sterilization (Tubal Ligation or Vasectomy) |
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Lady
F's Story: Hi I am a college student and
I was at my friends party and i was having a drink and then every
thing went out from there and now because I am preganet my family
is upset and I am having to quite school. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was raped by a family member |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
G's Story: Please, I am 17 years old,
and I've JUST recieved a college cception
letter. My other is terminally ill, and to find ut that her daughter
is pregnant will literally kill her. My father is getting over
alcoholism
ver slowly, and finding out that his baby girl is having a baby
will drive him right back into it. The father of this child and
I have been
together for almost four years, so it's not that I'm worried about
him or anything. In fact, we're both (in my opinion) mature enough
to have a
child; we're just not financially secure. Plus, my college is
thousands of miles away, and he's staying in our home state to
go to school. How
can we take care of a child like that? How can we take care of
a child while in school AND working? Please, please help me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$400 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
H's Story: I have three children and have
had very many abortions....was in an
abusive relationship for a while...now am pregnant again and am
very scared...after this is over I am secretly getting my tubes
tied. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
30 - 34 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
I's Story: I suffer with severe bouts
of depression and am currently only able to
get thru work by telling myself each 1/2 hour takes me closer
to getting back home. I barely make enough to keep my head above
the water and would be unable to provide. I have to see this person
at work and try to avoid him whenever possible. In addition to
this I am filled with anguish because I really need my job. I
don't feel emotionally stable enuff
to turn him in...he is in a higher position than me. I don't use
b/control because I am not seeking a sexual relationship. I am
crying at
night and get little sleep worrrying that someone is going to
find out. Please help me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was date raped by someone I know |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
J's Story:I'm not really sure if this
would work for me.. my last cycle was back
in November of 2006, so its almost been 2 months now. If I'm calculating
correctly, it should be about 6-7 weeks since conception. I made
sure to use protection, but I see now that condoms aren't as effective
as most people believe they are. Pregnancy tests have all been
Positive (I've taken 3 of them, just to make sure). And I don't
have enough money to
get an abortion. I was told that an abortion costs 'a few hundred'
dollars, depending on if/what you use for pain management. Apart
from the money, I still don't feel comfortable with such an unnatural
way to stop a pregnancy. So I feel the only option I really have
is this - a natural 'miscarriage' to ensure that a child isn't
born into an enviroment
where I would have to do whatever necessary just to get diapers
- that isn't fair to me, a child, or my family members (who I
live with). Thank
you. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$Few Hundred |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
K's Story:I am 19 years old with 2 kids
already. I am currently unemployed but
looking delingently. My father of my kids is a dead beat and does
very little for them. Because of where i am in life today, I was
forced to lose my apartment and move back in with my grandmother.
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other family
member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$? |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared for,
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
IUD (Intra Uterine Device) |
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Lady
L's Story: im am 17 years old and have
a very bright futuer ahead of my self this
was a honest mistake and i promise my self this will not happen
again but i can not raise a child my mother is on drugs and my
dad is dead i stay with my uncle and his 3 kids the father of
the babay has a job but not car or a place of his own i am suppose
to go off in the millitary (navy) but with a child i will not
be able to do any thing so please help my fix the futre by correcting
the mistakes of my past. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$245-450 |
| Age |
17 - 19 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was duped, drugged, or conned into having sex
with someone who I would not normally have had sex with |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
|
Lady
M's Story:i'm 29 years of ago.I have been
in an abusive relationship for the
past five years from my family and friend. my mother gave me way
at age 7 and i lived with a family i didnt know that raised me.
after dropping out of school i went with a an that said he'd take
care of me. but ended up beating me \. i have threekids now my
youngest age 8 mon. my doctor didnt tie my tubs due to insurance..
now thai i have left him
meaning on the run i want to abort but not finacailly able. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
forced into prostitution, beating from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$550 |
| Age |
25 - 29 |
| Ethnic Group |
African American |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
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