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Australia
Women's Stories |
Lady
A's Story: I am a mother who already has
3 children, I am unable to take the
contraceptive pill as I bleed constantly when on any of them,
this includes the implanon implant and depopravera. I cannot afford
a surgical
abortion at ths stage as I have bills that I can't afford to pay
and mouths to feed and this amount really is a lot when you live
from pay cheque to pay cheque.
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Lady
B's Story: I am 39 years old and
have a 13 year old son with multiple disabilities. After being
divorced for 8 years i met someone who ithought cared about me.
The week before i found out i was pregnant i saw a side to him
that scared me and i broke it off with him. I am scared to ask
him to give me money to have an abortion. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by
family, |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work, |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill, |
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Lady
C's Story: I am 21 years old and was just
simply looking for an alternative from
abortion... i have 2 kids under 2 and we cant afford 2 have any
more... so i wanted the kindest way 2 release this pregnancy.... |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
none i just dont like the idea |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men, Birth Control
Pill |
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Lady
D's Story: I have children, 12 and 14.
My husband had treatment for cancer 2 years ago and we are hoping
that he stays healthy. I am hoping to finish my uni course to
be a teacher in a few months. If I can teach next year it will
be the first time I\'ve been able to provide properly for my kids
(my husband is their stepfather, and their father is unemployed).
I had a surgical abortion last year and it was extremely traumatic
emotionally. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
I would never tell my family
as they would
disapprove. |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 |
| Age |
35 - 39 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
E's Story: i have had an abortion 3 years
ago n well this time i was on the pill
and i dont want the baby but i dont want to go through it id much
rather have a "miscarraige" at home i cant sit in the
surgery this time as i havent the money for it and no one knows
except me. i feel really bad n dont know what else to do. please
help me. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
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| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did
not care for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there
was
nothing on TV), I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
Birth Control Pill |
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Lady
F's Story: I usually use condoms when
i have sex, however i don't when i am
menstrating, and sometimes around my menstration period. I think
i must of fell pregnent due to my periods not being regular, and
still at times having sex without a condom. Abortion is legal
where i am from, however, i can not affort the price tag associated
with it. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700.00 |
| Age |
20 - 24 |
| Ethnic Group |
Caucasian (White) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
G's Story: I am 39 years old and have
a 13 year old son with multiple disabilities.
After being divorced for 8 years i met someone who ithought cared
aboutme. The week before i found out i was pregnant i saw a side
to him
that scared me and i broke it off with him. I am scared to ask
him to giveme money to have an abortion.
Thank you
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
40 or more |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
birth control pill |
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Lady
H's Story: I live in Australia, divided
between two cultures .. Turkish and Australian ... trying to fit
in and battling with parents constantly. I came
here when I was four and have difficulty conforming to my cultural
expectations when all I know to do is to conform with the Australian
way of life. This does not necessarily mean that I\'m wayward
or troublesome ... as my parents believe. Simply going for coffee
with friends is risky in their eyes ... risky because I\'m not
under the watchful eye of my parents and anything could happen.
It seems my parents honour is
more important than anything else ... anything that helps me to
evolve and grow into a balanced human being. I don\'t really know
what to say here, I\'ve never really been able to express my feelings
about my need
for freedom ... it hardly seems important when weighed up with
the honour of my family ... sometimes I feel so defeated I just
wish I could have a little bit of freedom just to ha
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from father or other
family member, dis-owned by family,
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
17-19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Middle Eastern |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was duped, drugged, or conned into
having sex with someone who I would not normally have had sex with,
I did
not use birth control
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
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Lady
I's Story: I am 21 years old and was just
simply looking for an alternative fromabortion...i have 2 kids
under 2 and we cant afford 2 have any more...so i wanted the kindest
way 2 release this pregnancy....
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
none i just dont like the idea
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men, we used birth control
pill |
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Lady
J's Story: please help me. I in trouble
don\'t know where to turn. |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family,
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
17-19 |
| Ethnic Group |
Middle Eastern |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
we used a condom for men |
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Lady
K's Story: I have children, 12 and 14.
My husband had treatment for cancer 2 years
ago and we are hoping that he stays healthy. I am hoping to finish
my uni course to be a teacher in a few months. If I can teach
next year it will be the first time I\'ve been able to provide
properly for my kids (my husband is their stepfather, and their
father is unemployed). I had a surgical abortion last year and
it was extremely traumatic emotionally.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
I would never tell my family
as they would
disapprove.
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300 |
| Age |
35-39 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for,
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
L's Story: i can not really remember the
man or the night that i became pregnant.I had a fight with my
fiance\', and went out in town for the night with
some work colleges. i woke up the next moprning in a strangers
bed. i have not had sex previously, and now being pregnant, i
will ruin my whole life. if my family finds out, they will send
me back to my family.
i have just been diagnosed with MS, and epilepsy, and have recently
had an MRI. i am also on medicine that will harm the foetus. I
do not want to have an abortion, because it is against my beliefs,
but I really can\'t have this baby. I would love to have a natural
miscarriage,
but I can not pay for this document. My father, and fiance\' have
total control over my money, and there is no way i could pay without
them knowing. Please, if there is any way that i could do this
as discrietly as
possible, i would muchly appreciate it. I don\'t know what i will
do other wise. please, find it within yourselves to help me. Thank
you.
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
beating from
father or other family member, dis-owned by family, |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$300
|
| Age |
25-29 |
| Ethnic Group |
Middle Eastern |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high)
on alcohol or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without
being
fully aware of the situation., |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
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Lady
M's Story: Thanks, i dont have a job or
any money and im afraid to tell my parents because i fear they
will react badly. I am not sure I am pregnant but it could be
possible. We are always so careful but the condom broke a little
bit, I dont understand why.
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
school expulsion, dis-owned
by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
under 16 years old |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work, |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
Lady O's Story:
i was born to a 16 year old and was adopted by my grandmother
even though i have had a great life i do not want to bring a baby
into the world at this point in my life!
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
17-19 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being fully
aware of the situation., I did not use birth control. |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
Lady Q's Story:
have 2 kids
cannot have more
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
husband
leaves, beating from husband, dis-owned by family,
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$350 |
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I was duped, drugged, or conned into having sex with someone
who
I would not normally have had sex with, I did not use birth control |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
Lady 's Story:
i am broke
at this time and ready to lose house
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$600 |
| Age |
40 or more. |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
We used a condom for men |
Lady 's Story:
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| Is
abortion legal in your country or state? |
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| Penalties in
my country if i choose to end my pregnancy prematurely |
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| Family reaction
if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
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| Ethnic Group |
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| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
's Story:
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| Is
abortion legal in your country or state? |
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| Penalties in
my country if i choose to end my pregnancy prematurely |
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| Family reaction
if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
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| Ethnic Group |
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| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
N's Story: i was born to a 16 year old
and was adopted by my grandmother even though i have had a great
life i do not want to bring a baby into the world at this point
in my life! |
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
17-19 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I was intoxicated (drunk, stoned, high) on alcohol
or drugs due to my own actions. And I had sex without being fully
aware of the situation., I did not use birth control
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
Lady
P 's Story: I
want to pay but I don\'t have any money in my bank account at
the moment. Can I pay next week? I want to find out this stuff
as soon as possible. I know it sounds pathetic and is not a great
excuse but please can you help me. I am emotionally not anywhere
near ready to have a child.
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| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
I will loose my job and I don\'t feel
like I am
ready for a baby
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
|
| Age |
25-29 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I used birth control but it did not work, I did not use birth
control
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
Lady R's Story:
i
have had an abortion 3 years ago n well this time i was on the
pill and i dont want the baby but i dont want to go through it
id much rather have a \"miscarraige\" at home i cant
sit in the surgery this time as i havent the money for it and
no one knows except me. i feel really bad n dont know what else
to do. please help me.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
dis-owned by family |
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$500 |
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I did not care
for. (ie I was bored, lonely, it was a rainy night or there was
nothing on TV), I used birth control but it did not work |
| Birth control
used (if any) |
birth control pill |
Lady 's Story:
I usually use
condoms when i have sex, however i don\'t when i am menstrating,
and sometimes around my menstration period. I think i must of
fell pregnent due to my periods not being regular, and still at
times having sex without a condom. Abortion is legal where i am
from, however,
i can not affort the price tag associated with it.
|
| Family
reaction if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
|
| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
$700 |
| Age |
20-24 |
| Ethnic Group |
caucasian (white) |
| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
I had consensual sex with someone I cared
for, I did not use birth control
|
| Birth control
used (if any) |
I did not use birth control |
Lady
's Story:
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| Is
abortion legal in your country or state? |
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| Penalties in
my country if i choose to end my pregnancy prematurely |
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| Family reaction
if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
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| Ethnic Group |
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| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
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Lady
's Story:
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| Is
abortion legal in your country or state? |
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| Penalties in
my country if i choose to end my pregnancy prematurely |
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| Family reaction
if they knew I wanted to end my pregnancy |
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| Approximate
cost of an abortion in my country |
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| Age |
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| Ethnic Group |
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| Reason for
becoming pregnant |
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| Birth control
used (if any) |
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