Abused Pregnant Women

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1) Female from the United Kingdom

abused pregnant women
Abused Pregnant Women

I am in the process of a difficult divorce,my estranged husband has threatened my life on more than 1 occasion.

I have a court trial coming up mid August which I'm finding very hard to get through as the sexual & mental abuse I suffered in my marriage will be dragged out in court.I did not expect to get pregnant using precautions, however due to the great financial burden to fight several court/legal issues against my estranged husband & his family I am struggling greatly & am unable to even buy a proper food shop each month.
I am in no position,mentally or financially to sustain myself never lone a baby.I took an overdose a few months ago as I was unable to cope with the abuse etc from the marriage/divorce.I can't cope with my life & my body is already changing rapidly & I would lose my job if it was noticed which I can't afford to do.Please help me,I'm desperate but do not have any finances to purchase the ebook.

  • Family Reaction: dis-owned by family
  • Age: Over 40
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I was duped, drugged, or conned into having sex with someone who I would not normally have had sex with
  • Birth Control Used: We used a condom for men

2) Female from Zimbabwe, Africa

I'm a 45 years old woman going through a divorce that is taking nearly 2 years. I had an abusive husband. I have found someone that is caring and we finaly did it but I miscalculated the dates, haven't done it for so many years. We both have children and do not wish to have anymore - I couldn't anyway as I had complications with my last one and would be a risk pregnancy. Please help.

  • Age: Over 40
  • Ethnic Group: Hispanic / Latino
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used:I did not use birth control

3) Female from Portugal

im suppose to have my menstruation on the 29 of june but until now, i dont have it. I dont know what to do. im married and maybe my husband will kill me if he found out.

  • Family Reaction: husband leaves; dis-owned by family
  • Age: 25-29
  • Ethnic Group: Southeast Asian
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control

4) Female from Colorado, USA

I am 37 years old. I am unemployed and not allowed to work because he feels i shouldn't be associated with others who may influence me to be independant. I am being evited from my apartment in 2 weeks. My husband is non supportive, verbally abusive, and on occasion physically abusive.

I have 4 children now 3 of which are from a previous marriage. When I had the first child from this marriage he became cruel to my other children. If I have another I am afraid of how he will treat my 3 other children. I am very depressed and cant do this again with him. The first time was horrible, a second one will be devestating to me and all of the children I have now. Please help.

  • Family Reaction: husband leaves, beating from husband
  • Age:35 - 39
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I used birth control but it did not work
  • Birth Control Used: Withdrawal Method

5) Woman from Kentucky

I will call myself Elizabeth, I am 20 years old, from Kentucky. I have been with the same guy for over 4 years and we together have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. About a year after she was born things got rocky. He became abusive. I finally decided I ad enough and called the cops on him and decided I was leaving hijm for good after numerous attempts to get away. I packed up mine and my daugters things and moved in with my mother. I lost my job due to it's very strict attendance code, my car broke down, and now I find out that I am pregnant again. I wanted to go back to school and build a life for for my daughter and I before I tried to add a child. I am about to lose it, besides that I was diagnosed with cervical cancer 4 mos. ago, I am really scared becasue I had emergency c-section with my daughter. I don't want things to be worse this time. Please help me........"Elizabeth"

  • Age: 20 - 24
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: We used a condom for men

6) Woman from Kentucky

I found out the baby's father lied all along about his service in the military and his whole life in general. Though he wants this child, since I got pregnant, he's tortured me mentally and picked on me. Today, he held a burning cigarette over my face and threatened to rape me with a 20oz pop bottle and a two liter. Today, I found out about all the lies. I can't do this. I'm almost five months along and I'm about to break mentally. I can't do it.

  • Family Reaction: beating from husband, disowned by family, financially (poor already) destroyed, humiliated
  • Age: 25 - 29
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control

7) Woman from Alabama

well im a 26 year old women i have two kids 1 and 2.Im in a very abusive relationship that im trying so hard to get out of im unemployed and married.I was trying to get away and was doing well.
Then i made the mistake of having sex with my husband once again well i ended up pregant and now im tried with him once again i dont have any money so basically im stuck i just want to kill myself but i have 2 kids 1 of which my husband or his family dont help me with.Im in a town where i know no one and cant get any help. What am i going to do with a nother child.

  • Family Reaction: beating from husband
  • Age: 25 – 29
  • Ethnic Group: African American
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: We used a condom for men

8) Woman from South Carolina, USA

my husband got me drunk and forced me to have sex with him. we already have a special needs child and he is physically and emotionally abusive to me.
i cannot bring another child into this situation but have no money or way to have an abortion without him finding out and im sure he would be furious with me if he even knew i was trying to. i dont work and dont have any money of my own and he wont give me any so i dont have any means to buy this information. i desperatly need it. please help me

  • Family Reaction: beating from husband, disowned by family
  • Age: 20 - 24
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I was intoxicated on alcohol or drugs due to my own actions. I had sex without being fully aware of the situation, I was raped by a family member
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control

9) Greek Female Living in Germany

I was practically forced to sleep with my boyfriend who was my first relationship. He would put physical pressure on me and having sex with him hurt a lot. I stayed with him because he kept apologizing for his behavior but it was a really toxic and hurtful relationship. I don't feel psychologically stable enough to have a medical abortion. My family is strictly religious and I'm in fear of them finding out of the relationship I had. Finding out I'm pregnant would have me kicked out of the house and it's the last thing I'd want right now. My best friend knows about what I'm planning to do. I just can't raise a child, not one that was enforced to grow in my body. Plus I have nothing to offer to it right now.

  • Age: 19
  • through verbal threats or intimidation?
  • He is an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband
    • Disowned by family if they found out (forced to leave home or not allowed to return)
    • Beating from the man who got me pregnant if he found out
    • Beating from my father, brother or another family member if they found out
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