Family Consequences for Women Pregnant out of Wedlock

There are often serious family consequences for women pregnant out of wedlock.

1) Female from Jamaica

Women Seeking Miscarriage in JamaicaI AM AN 18 YR OLD LIVING IN JAMAICA I AM CURRNETLY IN COLLEGE DOING PREUNIVERSITY SCIENCES WITH TE HOPE OF BECOMING A SURGEON, I LIVE IN A CHRISTIAN HOME WITH VERY STRICT PARENTS. I HAV BEEN DATING ONE OF MY CLASSMATES FOR ABOUT 9 MONTHS NOW N LAST MONTH WE DECIDED THAT IS WAS OK TO HAVE SEX AND WE HAD SEX TWICE, WE DID USE CONDOMS BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT WENT WRONG ALL I KNOW IS THAT I MISSED MY MONTHLY PERIOD.

WE DONT KNOW WHAT 2 DO AS NONE OF US ARE READY 2 HAV KIDS AS WE ARE BOTH 18 N LIVE IN THE SAME HOUSE HOLD CONDITION.IF MY PARENTS FOUND OUT, I WOULD BE BEATEN SEVERLY AND MAY EVEN BE FORCE TO LEAVE MY HOUSE AND NONE OF MT RELATIVES WILL TAKE ME IN. MY BOYFRIEND WILL BE FORCED TO LEAVE SCHOOL TO SUPPORT US AND I WILL B EXPELLED FROM SCHOOL EVENTUALLY. I CANT HAVE AN ABORTION BECAUSE IT IS ILLEGAL IN JAMAICA

  • Family Reaction: school expulsion, disowned by family
  • Age: 17-19
  • Ethnic Group: Other
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: We used a condom for men, Rhythm Method

2) Lady from Missouri, USA

I LIVE IN MISSOURI BUT I WAS BORN IN ROMANAI MY FAMILLY STILL GOES BY THE LAWS OF ROMANIA IVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR ONE YEAR NOW AND I GOT ON THE DEPO PORVERA SHOT TO NOT GET PREGGNANT BUT IT DIDNT WORK I GOT PREGNANT AND NOW I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I DO NOT NEED A BABY IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW AND IF MY FAMILLY FINDS OUT THAT AM PREGGNANT THEY WILL BEAT ME AND SEND ME BACK TO MY COUNTRY PLEASE I REALLY DO NEED HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I DONT WANT TO HAVE A BABY RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT IN MY LIFE PLEASE HELP ME.

  • Family Reaction: school expulsion, beating from father or another family member, dis-owned by family, death by the hands of a family member, my parents and family members will beat me really bad
  • Age: 17 - 19
  • Ethnic Group: Romania
  • Reason for Pregnancy:
    I used birth control but it did not work
  • Birth Control Used:
    Depo Provera

3) Female from the Philippines

MY HUSBAND KNOWS I WAS RAPED BUT I AM ONLY HERE ON VISA AND HAVE TO GO HOME MY FAMILY KNOWS WHEN I WAS WITH MY HUSBAND AND THEY WOULD KNOW IT IS NOT OUR CHILD AND I DO NOT WANT MY FAMILY TO PUNISH ME AND DISRESPECT MY HUSBAND.

  • Family Reaction: IS POSSIBLE MY HUSBAND LEAVE ME
  • Age: 20 - 24
  • Ethnic Group: South East Asian
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I was gang-raped by more than one person
    Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control

4) Female from Ireland

Please help me,i dont want to have this ruining my life.My sister had her child at the age of 17 and she was kicked out of home and my parents dont talk to her,i dont want this to happen to me!please im begging ye help me!

  • Family Reaction: dis-owned by family
  • Age: 17 - 19Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I was duped, drugged or conned into having sex with someone who I would not normally have had sex with
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control

5) Female from Venezuela

i dont have any income i just study , if my family was to find out that im possibly pregnant . god i have no idea what would happened , i rather not think about it. their very strong about their belief, and have the idea that the "old" ways are the best where women dont have a decision and that we dont have right , to me its a privilage to study and abortion would show rebelion against what im " here to do" or what i was born for , rebelion is strongly punished but with a baby my study privilages will be taken to , i need to study so later on when i can have a baby i can provide it a future and not have to just take the abuse from those around me to provide my baby some sort of security, and what if i had a girl too. i would never want to have a daugther born into this and me have to just sit there and watch her go through what i have had to

  • Family Reaction: beating from husband, beating from father or another family member, disowned by family
  • Age: 17 - 19
  • Ethnic Group: Hispanic / Latino
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control,

6) Female from Honduras

i jus started college with scholarships because my family cannot afford to pay for it. if i became i told them i was pregnant they would completely disown me. my father would suffer extremely and he is very sick. my brother would is capable of trying to hurt my boyfriend. i love children and i want to be a pediatrician someday but i cannot accomplish that if i have a child of my own right now.

  • Family Reaction: school expulsion, beating from father or family member, dis-owned by family, my father is sick. it could kill him
  • Age: 17 - 19
  • Ethnic Group: Hispanic / Latino
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for
  • Birth Control Used: I did not use birth control, Morning After Pill

7) Female from The United KIngdom

I'm 17 and was dumped then the guy siad he whanted me back so i concented and then in the morning he said it was a mistak and he did not whent me any more, and if my peront find out they will throw me out like they did to my sister

  • Family Reaction: disowned by family
  • Age: 17 - 19
  • Ethnic Group: Caucasian (White)
  • Reason for Pregnancy: I had consensual sex with someone I cared for, I used birth control but it did not work
  • Birth Control Used: Birth Control Pill

8) Female from Belize

I'm 8 weeks pregnant 5days iam from Belize I'm not ready to have a family my dad will kill or even hit me. i guess i got pregnant by pre come den my panther use a condom.help me please i can have this child

  • Family Reaction: beating from father or another family member, dis-owned by family
  • Age: 20 - 24
  • Ethnic Group: African American
  • Birth Control Used: We used a condom for men
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